Brutality of Godly Transformation

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You’ve heard dramatic stories of how they went from being a drag addict and a convict to where they are now clean and sober, those relationships that had been broken (parents, children, spouses) are mended, and how they are serving and making a difference all because of Jesus.

To be honest, these stories make me nervous.

First, they make me nervous because not everyone’s broken story has a happy ending like this. There are lots of people who live miserable lives and struggle with their addictions and brokenness throughout the rest of their lives even though they receive Jesus.

But the biggest reason why stories like this make me nervous is that they don’t describe the brutal journey of transformation.

Very rarely, will God zap someone so that they go from being an addict one moment to being completely clean the next moment with never another desire to be high.

Can God do that? Absolutely. Has God done that? People say so. But I’ve not seen it. People I work and live with struggle with addiction. Addiction ruins them. Even when they love Jesus, the addiction ruins them. And those who have beaten their addictions, they have scars all over their bodies and souls to prove how excruciating and difficult transformation is.

These stories of transformation make it seem like God did all the transforming, and people can’t help but wonder if there’s something wrong with them or wrong with God because God’s not transforming them in the same way.

Why isn’t God zapping me? Why do I still struggle?

Most of the time, transformation works as teamwork. God desires all to be transformed. And God gives us that possibility.

AND, there were and are mighty struggles where the recovering addict and criminal battles with all his might against his flesh that wants to get high. There were and will continue to be mighty battles against the flesh that wants to be destructive and violent. But because they battle to submit and obey the will of God instead of the will of the flesh, over time, over much battling, and over many scars they become the people God calls and created them to be. God eventually changes our character, our desires, our addictions. And, in time, we become who God created us to be.

But this was excruciatingly difficult.

And they are absolutely changed by the love of God. And they will be the first to tell you that without God they couldn’t have done it.

Yes, God did it. Yes, God changed them. But they worked their butts off so God could change them.

God didn’t zap them because God is rarely in the business of zapping.

Transformation is hard and brutal work.

But God absolutely changes people and changes our world.

And thank God for that!!!

How Do You Respond to Correction? How You Respond Says Much About You

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How do you respond to discipline? rebuke? correction?

How you respond says much about you and the one who disciplining you.

No one likes to be disciplined, rebuked, corrected. It always feels like crap. This is true for the one who is giving out the discipline, rebuke, and correction and the one who is receiving it. It feels like crap whether your the discipliner or the disciplinee.

The only reason why someone would make the effort to discipline, correct, and rebuke another is because they love them. If they didn’t, they would just leave them be. It’s yucky and always uncomfortable to enter the realm of discipline, correction, and rebuke.

Some people respond better to discipline, rebuke, and correction than others.

There are some who react to discipline, rebuke, and correction as if it is an intrusion on their rights and intellect. Discipline, rebuke, and correction is not perceived as loving. In fact, it is perceived as an intrusion and an offence.

And there are those who are grateful that someone would care enough to discipline, rebuke, and correct them. They know that the discipline and correction is coming from a place of love. They know that the discipline and correction is to make them a stronger and better person.

So what makes the difference? This is even more intriguing in that in the same family, same church, people respond differently to discipline and correction.

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For those who begin with the posture of the “Fear of the Lord”, where they know God is God and God knows best, their attitude toward God is one of “Humility”. And because they trust that God is God and God knows best, when God disciplines and rebukes, they “Trust” and have “Faith” in God’s love and care for them even in the discipline.

On the other hand, for those who begin with the posture “I know best” what is best for me. Their attitude toward God is one of arrogance. God, who do you think you are to tell me how to live my life? I know better than anyone else, including you, what is best for me. And because they believe they know best, they “disregard” and are “indifferent” to God’s discipline and rebuke. In fact, most of the time, they take offense to God’s discipline and correction.

What I find interesting about this is that the persons who usually finds offense with God’s discipline and correction, typically don’t do well with human discipline and correction. They are, at least in their minds, always right.

Don’t be that guy. Don’t be that gal.

“Do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in” (Proverbs 3:11-12).