“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18).
Truth matters. AND, kindness matters.
It is quite possible to declare the truth in a completely offensive way. It is absolutely possible to say the right things, but to say it in such a way where no one wants to hear it.
Therapists say that couple fight more over how something is said than over what is said. You can say the same thing in a way that honors the person you are speaking with, or you can say the same thing in a way and a tone that demeans to person you are speaking to.
More couples argue over the tone of what is said than over the content.
It is quite possible to be absolutely orthodox – have the right beliefs and understandings – and be a complete jerk.
Don’t be a jerk.
Once heard a wise person say, “Don’t be a porcupine. You’ve got a lot of good points, but nobody wants to be around you.
Don’t be a porcupine. That’s good advice. Pay careful attention to your tone of voice and how you are speaking to the people around you.
Praxis: Faith in Action 