For the most part, it’s cool to see your kids grow up. They gain their independence and it’s fun to see them becoming adults.
But I really miss the days when my kids were little kids.
I miss it when they used to run up to me, “Daddy!!!!! with their hugs and their kisses.” I miss Karis’ amazing sparkle in her eyes, Kaitlin’s cute husky voice and her twirling around the house, Kailey’s wide-eyed wonder in the world around her, and Kaleb’s gentle loving spirit. I miss my little ones…
The hardest part of kids growing up is that they grow up. They start making their own decisions…and sometimes decisions that go against your wishes…and there’s not a darn thing I can do…because they are adults…they have to make their own decisions and live with them…and in the process break their hearts and break yours…
The hardest part of kids growing up is that they grow up.
Oh…I miss my little ones. Things were so much simpler back in the day when they were little.
Imagine going to a shareholders meeting and the following statistics regarding market share were presented:
Year 2000 – 2.5 million
2005 – 2.3 million
2010 – 2 million
end of 2014 – 1.6 million
And then you hear from the CEO, CFO, and the Board Chair that the organization is projecting to lose over 400,000 more for 2015-2020.
As if this nightmare scenario can’t get worse, you hear from the same CEO, CFO, and the Board Chair “We are not dead, we are reforming, we are alive and we are well.”
In what organizational structure would that be acceptable? In what organizational setting would that be applauded?
There are articles, blogs, books you can read about Inter-generational Ministry. I don’t pretend to be an expert. I don’t have much to add to the fine materials one can find out there.
This entry is a plea to anyone who may be considering doing “Inter-generational Ministry” from a guy who’s doing his best to lead a ministry that reflects the inter-generational nature of Christ’s ministry.
First, please don’t try to be who you’re not. That get’s weird. What do I mean?
That’s what I mean. That’s weird. Don’t do that.
Don’t try to “get relevant.” Just be authentically you. Should a young person come to your church, they are wanting folks to be real. And when they see that there aren’t many young people around, the last thing they are wanting is for the older folk to be “young.” Should the young people stick around, it will be because they see and sense a genuine love for Christ in you. They will be drawn by your way of loving and being loved by Christ.
So be you. Be a wiser, older, uncle/aunt or grandparent figure. You are not their “pals” and young people aren’t expecting that from you.
The reality is that most of our Presbyterian churches are older. That’s okay. It’s who we are. There’s no shame in that. And the good news of Jesus is that God will use who we are to reach people.
Lastly, please don’t do inter-generational ministry as a church growth strategy. No one wants to be someone else’s project. If you’re going to do inter-generational ministry, this is not about the future of your local church. This is kingdom investment in the people God sends your way. Young people who don’t know Jesus and who don’t share your local church history, don’t give a rip about the future viability of your local church. That’s one of the last reasons why they would be a part of a church community.
When young people show up it’s because they are hoping against hope that this God thing is for real and that they can experience in the church something bigger than them, bigger than this generation, bigger than this world. They want to connect with a God who is eternal and a community who can “usher” them into God’s presence.
Doing inter-generational ministry will be difficult, time-consuming, have a low investment-to-return ratio, and be costly.
So why should anyone do inter-generational ministry?
Because Christ’s kingdom is multi-generational in nature. Our local church should reflect that.
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